Exploring your own body and discovering what pleasure feels like for you can be a great way to boost your mood, relax your body and mind, and help you improve your sex life.
Plus, when it comes to masturbation, you don’t have to worry about passing or getting HIV or STIs but still get that release of feel-good hormones! Even our national doc Theresa Tam told us that the safest sex [in a pandemic] is the kind you have by yourself. 💦
Depending on the circles you run in, masturbation may not be openly talked about. Maybe you’ve been told that it’s wrong or shameful, or you feel guilty about doing it for some reason or the other? Whatever the case may be, remind yourself that (1) your body is yours, (2) masturbation is completely natural and normal, and (3) you are deserving of pleasure!
And hey, masturbation can help you learn more about what you like, including where and how you like to be touched. When you know what turns you on, it can be pretty empowering to tell your partner(s) what makes you feel good. You might even want to masturbate with each other, so you can learn how you both like to be touched while getting turned on! Educational moments in the bedroom for the win. 🙌
If you're a newbie to masturbation, we recommend getting familiar with yourself and what’s going on down there. If you can’t see everything, how are you going to make your introduction? Grab a mirror (or two!) and whatever else you need. If you can see yours, have you made a proper acquaintance?
We understand that it might feel awkward, embarrassing or out of your comfort zone to start exploring your intimate areas if you’ve never done it before. But our bodies were made to experience a range of emotions and sensations, so if you’re feeling curious, why not try it out in the safety and comfort by yourself? Try not to judge yourself, relax and have fun!
Accepting and feeling confident in our bodies, especially when it comes to these parts, is a journey of self-love. This journey is not always straight forward, so be patient with yourself, especially when you first begin masturbating.
Masturbation, like anything else, can require some practice and a little experimentation! You may not reach the big O right away, and that’s okay. You may need lubrication, toys, hand stretches, the ability to feel relaxed, and ultimately just time to figure out the techniques that work the best for you.
Getting in the mood is key! Maybe it happens naturally for you... or you have a powerful imagination that runs wild... or the sight of your secret crush simply gets you feeling it?! Lots of people also watch porn, read stories, or listen to erotica to get turned on. Whatever is your cup of tea, you just need to relax and enjoy the ride.