Gentle January is a more tender and compassionate approach to the traditional "new year's resolution" culture that can create a lot of shame and pressure to make changes that you may not be ready for, able to, or want to make. Instead, let's softly land into 2024 by showing ourselves a little more TLC (tender, love and care)!
Gentle January acknowledges that this month is often very hard for many people. Money can be tight after the holidays, January tends to be the coldest month in most cities across Canada, and a new calendar year can create a lot of pressure to set goals and improve or change ourselves for the better. Not meeting these goals can also create a lot of feelings of shame.
Gentle January encourages self-compassion and is an opportunity to reflect on mindset over goals.
It acknowledges that progress is not linear. This creates a new outlook on fulfillment.
Gentle January can help us realize that our value is not placed on the finish line toward a goal or set of goals, but on the effort taken along the way.
This outlook allows us to be human. And when we acknowledge our own humanity and imperfections, it can help build our tolerance towards things that seem to set us off course. So, when we have off, slow, or missed days, we don't see the need to judge ourselves or use them as negative scorekeeping against our targets, or our worth and value, but rather, accept these as part of our journey.
Practicing Gentle January is unique to you. The intention is to not be in comparison with others around you. Everyone is on their own individual path, and everyone’s journey looks different.
Let's take what you learned in 2023 and build on it with empathy for all the past things you've conquered. The past version of you is resilient, powerful, and knowledgeable. The present version of you is the same, with more compassion and the ability to be kinder to yourself.
While your Gentle January mindset can be focused on taking better care of or improving your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, or sexual health, it's important to remember that your health and well-being are a journey that will continue to evolve 365 days of the year! You can think of Gentle January as a way to start this year’s journey off with a good note.
Regardless of what you decide to do with your January, it's essential to give yourself the grace of being human and remind yourself that progress is not always linear.
Happy New Year!
- The Sexfluent Family